Parenting Plans That Work: Co-Parenting After Divorce in Virginia
Divorce changes a marriage — but it doesn’t end your family.
For parents in Virginia, the most important goal after separation is to create a plan that puts their children first.
A well-crafted parenting plan helps parents transition from spouses to partners in raising their children. It sets expectations, minimizes conflict, and provides children with a sense of security and stability.
At the Law Office of Li-Shann Durst, PLLC, we help parents in Ashburn, Loudoun County, and Fairfax County build realistic, thoughtful parenting plans that support healthy co-parenting.
Why Parenting Plans Matter
Children thrive on routine and consistency. When parents separate, that stability can easily get lost in the shuffle.
A written parenting plan — approved by the court or included in a marital settlement agreement — creates a roadmap for how both parents will share responsibilities.
A strong plan addresses:
Custody and visitation schedules (including holidays and school breaks)
Decision-making authority (education, healthcare, activities)
Communication methods between parents
Conflict-resolution procedures for when disagreements arise
When both parents have clear expectations, day-to-day life runs smoother for everyone involved.
What Virginia Courts Expect
Virginia law focuses on the best interests of the child. Courts encourage parents to work together to create arrangements that meet their child’s emotional, physical, and developmental needs.
Judges look for parenting plans that demonstrate:
Cooperation between parents
Support for the child’s relationship with both parents
Practical scheduling that considers distance and school needs
Flexibility for unexpected events
If parents can’t agree, the court will issue a custody and visitation order — but most families are happier when they can make these decisions themselves.
Practical Tips for Successful Co-Parenting
1️⃣ Communicate Professionally
Treat your co-parenting relationship like a business partnership: concise, polite, and focused on the shared goal — your children’s well-being.
2️⃣ Keep Children Out of Conflict
Avoid discussing disputes in front of your children or using them as messengers.
3️⃣ Be Consistent but Flexible
Life happens — sports schedules change, kids get sick, plans shift. Flexibility shows maturity and builds trust.
4️⃣ Review the Plan Regularly
As your children grow, their needs change. Revisit the plan annually to make sure it still works.
When Co-Parenting Becomes Difficult
Even the most cooperative parents may face challenges. If disagreements escalate, alternative dispute resolution (ADR) methods such as collaborative law, mediation, or negotiation can help you find solutions without returning to court.
These methods encourage parents to rebuild trust, strengthen communication, and adjust parenting arrangements that no longer meet their children’s needs without returning to court.
Need Guidance for Your Parenting Plan?
If you’re creating, revising, or struggling to follow a parenting plan, we can help you design an arrangement that protects your children’s stability — and your peace of mind.
📞 Contact the Law Office of Li-Shann Durst at (703) 443-4762 or schedule a confidential consultation.
We’ll help you move forward with clarity, compassion, and structure.
Disclaimer
This article is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. Every case is unique. Please consult an attorney for advice specific to your situation.
